Are we married to the same man?? Mine hasn't asked for the legal bit yet, but I think talking about future partners and custody sums it up yes? And it is all his fault, he has changed blah blah blah.
And yes, I can keep the house, or sell it and use all the money for a new place. And yesterday he asked to talk to me and chatted and laughed and communicated.
My psychologist suggested his behaviour indicates there is still an attachment there, and that there seems to be "something else" he has to work through. (My H has been depressed, and I had hope that was all there was to it - no such luck). Regrdless she suggested not to take anything he said as final at this point.
We talked also looking after me, and talking clearly about anything that was concerning me - such as issues with the children etc... H hasn't beent talking to me or taking responsibility for the kids much, and I had started allowing him to do it because of his depression.
I am going to ask him to go to counselling - not marriage counselling (although yes, I hope we may get there), but to help us deal with the kids, and to help him to communicate with me. My kids are a lot younger - 5 and 2, so we have many years of being part of each others life.
I am not going to initiate anything - if he wants it he can do the leg work.
I don't want to hi-jack your post, but I find comfort that I am not in this crazy situation alone and maybe you'll get some too.
I'm moving on, but not giving up - but right now I am going to read WILMA.
