Sue...

I agree with the others...keep on doing what you're doing.

I wouldn't rush to tell H that despite what HE said were his wishes, you're still fighting for the M.

Could it HURT matters for him to believe that this great woman who shares so much of his life just wants to be his best friend? ...Wouldn't that deliver LOTS of opportunity to DB, to have him see you in a different light? To rediscover the "kind of love" he felt for you 10 years ago???

Sue, even though CJ had an OW on his shoulders, he too promised that I would "get everything" (quite sure SHE didn't know that!! )...this at the very least is a sign of deep caring, is it not?

LISTEN to him when he says there's no rush...there isn't! This may just be the beginning of the best part of your R yet!!!

Shiny