Trapt has issued very good advice, follow it to the letter, Cyclone. Keep following her lead to see where it goes, no pressure...I believe she is coming forward. Don't backslide, don't push...just wait for her at this time.
I know this is hard for anyone to believe, but I have been looking for a new thread in your situation, Cyclone..I'd somehow known it would happen within two weeks after my last post to you. It took longer than I expected, but came, nonetheless.
No one is ever more surprised than me, when something I've felt coming materializes for real...I'm always afraid when venturing out on a limb like this, and saying something that seems impossible to know.
OM(if still in the picture) would definitely have to be ditched by her before any real work is done..but the signs of babysteps and an awakening/breakthrough is there within her.
Keep doing what you're doing, no expectations, anything for now..she must navigate this on her own...and with no help except validation of her feelings from you...I believe she will continue to come forward...might be slow, but coming back toward you.
In her call to your dad, she was, in effect, "testing the waters" in that direction to see how the lay of the land is. You're right, that took real courage to make the call.
It is also possible she may slide back and forth while coming ever closer. This will still take some time, so dig deeper for the patience that has already been developed within you.
Wait and watch is all I can really advise for the moment.
Keep us posted.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
