Update. Me and H ended up being together on the 17th of March and we talked a little and one thing led to another. H was going to come to the house and get the water off of the pool but when he found out that my girlfriend was there we started joking around and he said he wouldn't come to the house since she was there. So as we were joking around he told me that his door wasn't locked. I asked him if he wanted me to come to his apartment and he said ya. That's how this whole thing started last Wednesday. Then as I was leaving we talked about maybe dating. H said Sundays aren't good for him anymore since his schedule changed at work so, the next day when I got home from work I texted him and asked him if he thought about what days or nights would be good for him and his response was no.
I asked why and he just said it wasn't a good idea. Now when I was leaving his apartment he said he loved me more than just the mother of his child and then when I asked why it wasn't a good idea he comes off with "the feelings aren't there."
Then I go and text him that I guess I was right that he had used me for sex. His response was whatever I got to go.
So then I wait a few hours thinking I'm DBing and tell him he was right and it wouldn't be a good idea after I saw him drinking booze after he ran out of beer. Told him that beer was one thing but that I couldn't put up with him drinking the hard stuff and I wasn't sure how I felt but I will stand. I don't thinks he knows what I meant by standing.
But made a big slip when I told him that our D13 and everyone else said that if he loved us he would be home but then again if he came home he would probably leave again. He responded again with "whatever already don't start with me please.
I waited for 2 days to pass and asked him if he was going to please take the water off the pool cover and he said when he had time. I haven't heard from him since then which was Sat.
Now he had time to do it because he dropped D13 off at the house on Sat. and I was upstairs and yelled to her and asked if daddy started getting the water off the cover (it takes 5 min. to start and finish it) and she said no.
So now I'm more confused than ever! Not all of my sitch is here because I don't know how to attach the link to my other thread. It has been almost 17 months and I'm so scared now that he isn't coming home. Is this normal behavior for a person going through a MLC?
