Sol, I know we all like to think that if we do this or that this horrible part of our lives will not be repeated. Yet, bottom line is that we are all flawed, even the best of us. No one can ever predict what will come from what we do. How about the person who looks after himself, is physically active, watches his/her diet and leads a healthy lifestyle and then dies of cancer! They did it all right but the bad thing happened anyway. There are no guarantees that the person we become involved in next will not do something hurtful, it's impossible to know, that's what makes stepping out and trying again so courageous. There are absolutely no guarantees! My Pastor once said to me "In this job I've learned one thing, in difficult circumstances good people can do some really bad things" What will be will be...no guarantees. I always, up until the last few years, thought my marriage was solid and my wife loved me...so much for knowing anything, I guess! You'll take that step towards someone again when you're ready, no rush.
