Reading Why Men Like Bitches (Sherry Argov)0- as someone on here suggested..and I just pulled out a section that may resonate with many of us...even though the book isn't written with the 'married but in crisis' audience in mind..it is still interesting.
If you let on that you are insecure about winning him over, he will know he has you. And if he knows he has you, it's unlikely you will engender that overwhelming feeling of attraction that is necessary for him to want to marry you. Once it's obvious you are totally 100 percent hooked, there is nothing exciting about you anymore.
A man taking on a new relationship is like a young boy opening a new jigsaw puzzle for the very first time. If he opens up the box and the puzzle is already put together, all the fun and excitement is taken out of it. But if the kid has to think, imagine, strategize, and put all the little pieces together, his mind is being stimulated. And then the little boy is tickled pink.
When it comes to securing a man's interest in commitment, your best strategy is to behave as if you like him, but you aren't that interested in locking him down. The objective is not to be standoffish, just low key. The lower the profile, the more he'll come in for the kill. And by "low profile" I mean, appear happy to see him, just don't assume the role of his girlfriend. When you don't step into that role, he'll lower his guard and begin to pursue you.
