ok, so this is probably not a song you will know it's by cinderella from the 80's.
quirky thing about this stuff is it's true...don't know what ya got til it's gone.
sounds to me that h just doesn't know what he wants...may like to "try" again...but also fears it not working? hey that's normal I'd be scared too...I recall "THE" convo I had with my h before he started to come home...he expressed his fears etc...I didn't "have all the answers" for him, but did let it be known that "hey, I'm kinda likin' my life too ya know and the thought of trying again and having it fail then having to work to get back to feeling good again doesn't sound fun...but wtf not?" I am a bit bold though and stating such things was a risk.
what the heck am I saying anyway?
don't know sue...but I do know that life has got to be about YOU! sure do things with h, invite him all you want, don't fret over what he's doing cause if there's one thing that's certain in life is that ya just never know what's gonna happen.
I know it's not what you want to hear but perhaps you can leave this talk breathing a sigh of releif (and that's ok too) that you at least have an answer...allow yourself to accept it and be more relaxed around h. things change all the time but you can't hold onto that...now alot of people may say...why the heck are you telling sue to give up hope? becuase for some darn reason it seems that when we let go and breath things change...we are more comfortable...we've gotten the answer and we are not pretending it's a lie or a phase it just is what it is, relax...be you, be calm, be fun, and it's just amazing what happens when suddenly that spark of hope is no longer seen in your eyes...the saddness is gone the hurt is gone and you can breath..they see it...they like it...they suddenly know what they had...ah but here's the kicker...what's gone doesn't have to be gone for good!
let me know if that makes any sense to you...I'm kinda in one of those rambly moods where I know what I'm tryin ta say but can't just say it simply.
