Originally Posted By: ericmsant2
I am still to emotionally tied to her. I have moved to the sofa and will completely detach. Completely. She will no longer hurt me


Be careful Eric.

This statement is coming from a place of anger and frustration.

I do believe, even though you won’t admit it, that you held out a hope that filing and telling your children would cause a “wake up” moment for her.

While not an uncommon idea, it was an unrealistic expectation.

You are on the right path, but like many, you are still only at the beginning of your detatchment and it takes time…

Do your best not to get stuck in this place you are in now...

I think you will get there if you continue to use the tools you have and new ones that you will acquire if you continue as you have been…


"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox