please know that your husband has absolutely NOTHING to do with your self worth. You are a priceless creation that God made for his purpose. He has an incredible plan for you, and you need to lean on him for wisdom and understanding, and trust in him.
are you a christian? so excuse me if I am wrongly assuming.
you must love the creation that God has made, which is YOU. You are a blessing, and you must believe that. believe that you are important no matter what H says or does. His words mean nothing. He is doing this evil as a result of his past hurt and he is not living in reality. He is being hurtful because he has no selfworth himself. he hates himself and therefore is unable to love.
please keep your focus off of him and onto you and the beautiful you that you are. you are here to help yourself, and I know you have a desire to become a better person. that in itself is extremely beautiful.
(((DU)))
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
and great idea to keep all legal convo's by email or written. do not speak over phone or in person regarding R and legal things right now.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
My thoughts are with you DU. One day at a time is all anyone can do.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
My prayers and thoughts are with you. As hard as it may seem right now, you will make it. Contact your L and let them deal with the legal stuff - right now just focus on you and God.
You are very strong women and although you may not see this now, this will make you stronger. Do not try to do this on your own - seek Him with all your heart. Keep posting, keep reaching out, a lot of us are praying for you.
Do not loose faith! A lot can happen in the next few weeks - no one know except Him. This is a time that you need to think about YOU.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
ST - I am a christian. But I am having problems with faith.
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
DU, you are coming to grips with some very painful realities. But you can have faith in the care and support that people have to offer you. We will be here for you in the ways that we can. I know it's tough today. Just remember to breathe, eat, drink, sleep. The basics. All you have to deal with is the present moment. sending hugs your way.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Really looking for additional insight (as always) from my fellow DBing friends.
As you all know, I received the H's complaint for Separate Maintenance on yesterday which also included indications that I stole his PP and other documents. This is absolutely not true. I made copies of the documents, and his PP was in our home, just not where originally placed them apparently.
I was in pretty bad shape last evening and this morning waking up with a horrendous headache. Went to the doc; got some meds to help with headaches and blood pressure.
Well my H called. He is being "honored" tonight at a dinner party to be held at friends of ours supporting his deployment. I did not hang up and really unfortunately "had my say". I was not angry and I was not yelling, but I told him in no uncertain terms how I felt. I have held back for a long time because I never wanted to "hurt" his feelings. And I do not believe I did that. I stated the facts. I cannot believe he did NOT hang up. But after receiving the court order yesterday, I needed to say something.
He sat and listened to me (I think); or maybe it went in one ear and out the other. Who knows at this point. I finally said what I have been holding back and it felt good. I then told him I had a call to get on and said that if he wanted to talk at some point, I may be open to that, but that I had to go and goodbye. He said bye. He called me back recently and I did not answer.
I also spoke with my L. I told him that I wanted to stay in my house as I have been doing. The H will continue to pay his portion and I will continue to assume all other household financial obligations. I told my L, as he has known since the day after my H accused me of stealing, that I left a message for my H telling him where everything was in the house. Well, my L is going to take care of everything. I feel very confident in him. He is also going to get the hearing date postponed and revise the separate maintenance because there are many "we, the plaintiff and the defendent" speech through his drafted document.
Well "we" didn't agree to anything. Okay.. I am breathing now. Just needed to post the events of my day.
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
Good for you DU! Getting it off your chest was hopefully a pressure reliever for you. Please keep your expectations at zero for this making any difference to your H at this point. I'm just glad that you feel a bit better for having your say.
Who knows at this point. I finally said what I have been holding back and it felt good. I then told him I had a call to get on and said that if he wanted to talk at some point, I may be open to that, but that I had to go and goodbye. He said bye. He called me back recently and I did not answer.