Thought I'd just come by to say hi, and wish you well!
I really appreciate your comments on my sitch, wish I could say more, but not sure what to say!
One thing that comes to mind, though, is about this rewritting history. My H had been doing that to some degree for a long time, and SOOO much now. Would even rewrite the same thing different ways in a single week.
I actually got tired of trying to argue it, correct it, or anything. I just started a little while ago to say, "Yeah, I know you feel that way". Or "I get it, I know you see it that way". Or sometimes if I wasn't feeling that conciliatory (?) I would just ignore the whole statement he was making and say something unrelated positive instead like, "We did do some pretty awesome things, eh?!".
I don't know if it helps or makes things worse (by validating), but actually no worse came of it. It almost seems like by not argueing with H about the history, he stops dwelling on the bad vision, because there's no one to argue with about it, and you get a chance to say a tiny bit to remind him of all the good things you are. Does that make sense?
Maybe the older DBs here can say whether that's good or not, but it really didn't seem to hurt anything, oddly enough. I guess it's like a 180 thought thing or something.
