It was lost and she didn't give a damn enough to look for it...
Sell it and buy something for yourself
(((Hugs)))
yup, we had a similar discussion in another thread but in this situation I think this is the right attitude, she lost it, didn't care enough to look for it, it didn't mean anything to her, so why give it to her, it has no meaning to her.
Fergie is turning 40!!! Wahoo! Warning! You'll need bifocals within a year! (I'm 43, and within six months of turning 40, my eyes turned really bad! Oh, and things start to sag.)
Fergie, are you on fb? You need to join our group. It's private, and not searchable, btw...
I'll let Rob handle your advice needs!
But, I vote no to the MC. Until she gets rid of OM and comes begging.
Also, let her sniffle. Maybe she'll rust her keyboard, look up and see what she's been missing for once.
MF your advice is awesome and spot, save that money that you would spend on the MC and invest it in some new clothes, some new kicks, a new haircut and spending money when you start going out on some casual dates ;-)
And what do mean "sag"? I have a lot of guy friends over 50 and they say I'm in my prime. Something about women in their 30's don't play games and want you out of the house before their kids wake up.
Fergie - <whisper> We'll just stick w/"stuff" sags! LoL And, your guy friends are insane. Women in their 40's are at their prime. Just ask my RABBIT! Grrrrrrrr! LoL Seriously, that is funny... they want you out before the kids wake up.
Originally Posted By: Fergie
I am on FB. I mainly just use it to play Mafia Wars, but I think I'm done with that. I need to clean out my friend list of Mafia Wars friends and start using it proper. Hey, BTW, what experiences have you guys had with STBX and unfriending them? (Not that I'm going to go ahead and do that right now, I'm just curious.)
Fergie - There's a group called Divorce Busters. Hidden from RL. Join it, and you'll see this blonde posted on the front page... A real Handful.
And, if we see your pic, we'll decide how much of that money you might have from the ring you might find you need to spend on h/c, clothing, etc... !!!! LOL LOL
Oh, and you'll learn a lot from Rob's political views! LMAO
OK, back to "the plan."
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
one more thought... just when you think you W doesn't care, she might!
Long story short.
Last Fri night was my kid's schools big fundraiser/dinner auction. I am on the BOD, and know the student body, parents and administration well (plus, we've had three kids through there!). Well, at the event, I got a little buzzed (SHOCK), and was bet that I couldn't get the new superintendent (10 years younger than me and BUILT) on the dance floor. "Mrs. M, he just WILL NOT dance. He does NOT dance." Yea, OK... Well, needless to say, Mr. Superintendent was dancing w/me w/in a few minutes (Lady Gaga!), and all had a good time.
Fast forward to last night... My S10 was in the school play, and WHO is there... Mr. Superintendent. While waiting for the play to begin, I'm talking to my H, standing, facing the crowd of people. Mr. Superintendent starts waving at me rather obnoxiously. I give him a smile, a wave, ANOTHER smile... (What is up w/this dude's incessant waving and smiling?!?!) OK, so, I give him one final wave and a wink, almost as a dismissal. H wonders who I'm exchanging all of this with???? I say, "Oh, it's Mr. Superintendent, let me go see what the hell he wants... he's waving, and smiling and kind of obnoxious!" I turn around, and H pulls me back by the shoulder, and says, "I'll go see what Mr. Superintendent wants. YOU stay here!"
Mr. Mindfull went over, shook his hand, and they shared a joke, etc...
But, the point of my story is... My H is friendly, helpful, home, present, etc... but has. in the past, claimed to be completely uninterested anymore. "He can't make me happy anymore." Funny, how a few 180's, a lot of patience, some weight loss and confidence return, start to make him interested in whose getting my attention while he's talking to me!
You may THINK she's not interested. But, she was at one point, right?
Sorry so long.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
one more thought... just when you think you W doesn't care, she might!
Long story short.
Last Fri night was my kid's schools big fundraiser/dinner auction. I am on the BOD, and know the student body, parents and administration well (plus, we've had three kids through there!). Well, at the event, I got a little buzzed (SHOCK), and was bet that I couldn't get the new superintendent (10 years younger than me and BUILT) on the dance floor. "Mrs. M, he just WILL NOT dance. He does NOT dance." Yea, OK... Well, needless to say, Mr. Superintendent was dancing w/me w/in a few minutes (Lady Gaga!), and all had a good time.
Fast forward to last night... My S10 was in the school play, and WHO is there... Mr. Superintendent. While waiting for the play to begin, I'm talking to my H, standing, facing the crowd of people. Mr. Superintendent starts waving at me rather obnoxiously. I give him a smile, a wave, ANOTHER smile... (What is up w/this dude's incessant waving and smiling?!?!) OK, so, I give him one final wave and a wink, almost as a dismissal. H wonders who I'm exchanging all of this with???? I say, "Oh, it's Mr. Superintendent, let me go see what the hell he wants... he's waving, and smiling and kind of obnoxious!" I turn around, and H pulls me back by the shoulder, and says, "I'll go see what Mr. Superintendent wants. YOU stay here!"
Mr. Mindfull went over, shook his hand, and they shared a joke, etc...
But, the point of my story is... My H is friendly, helpful, home, present, etc... but has. in the past, claimed to be completely uninterested anymore. "He can't make me happy anymore." Funny, how a few 180's, a lot of patience, some weight loss and confidence return, start to make him interested in whose getting my attention while he's talking to me!
You may THINK she's not interested. But, she was at one point, right?
one more thought... just when you think you W doesn't care, she might!
Long story short.
Last Fri night was my kid's schools big fundraiser/dinner auction. I am on the BOD, and know the student body, parents and administration well (plus, we've had three kids through there!). Well, at the event, I got a little buzzed (SHOCK), and was bet that I couldn't get the new superintendent (10 years younger than me and BUILT) on the dance floor. "Mrs. M, he just WILL NOT dance. He does NOT dance." Yea, OK... Well, needless to say, Mr. Superintendent was dancing w/me w/in a few minutes (Lady Gaga!), and all had a good time.
Fast forward to last night... My S10 was in the school play, and WHO is there... Mr. Superintendent. While waiting for the play to begin, I'm talking to my H, standing, facing the crowd of people. Mr. Superintendent starts waving at me rather obnoxiously. I give him a smile, a wave, ANOTHER smile... (What is up w/this dude's incessant waving and smiling?!?!) OK, so, I give him one final wave and a wink, almost as a dismissal. H wonders who I'm exchanging all of this with???? I say, "Oh, it's Mr. Superintendent, let me go see what the hell he wants... he's waving, and smiling and kind of obnoxious!" I turn around, and H pulls me back by the shoulder, and says, "I'll go see what Mr. Superintendent wants. YOU stay here!"
Mr. Mindfull went over, shook his hand, and they shared a joke, etc...
But, the point of my story is... My H is friendly, helpful, home, present, etc... but has. in the past, claimed to be completely uninterested anymore. "He can't make me happy anymore." Funny, how a few 180's, a lot of patience, some weight loss and confidence return, start to make him interested in whose getting my attention while he's talking to me!
You may THINK she's not interested. But, she was at one point, right?
Sorry so long.
Wow. Good for you. I like that story. I have some more thoughts and FB response, but I'm working with a cute coed grad student this morning, and would rather spend time "helping" her. BRB.
Wow. Good for you. I like that story. I have some more thoughts and FB response, but I'm working with a cute coed grad student this morning, and would rather spend time "helping" her. BRB.
Men! So fickle! LoL
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Something about women in their 30's don't play games and want you out of the house before their kids wake up. 
