First of all, remember her dad is your boss and you need to be careful how you speak to him or else look for another job. Which, if there is going to be a D, that would probably be a good idea anyway.
Not knowing her dad, I don't know if he has encouraged all of the house building project or if she has put him in the middle of things. Maybe you need to talk to her first before you go storming into his office.
Like you said, she knows you've seen the emails. If you have always been the one to do the communicating then she's probably wondering why you are not saying anything. BTW, I sure know how you feel b/c that was how is was at my house.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
