I have detached as much as I possibly can being that I'm not home. I only call the one time a week when she asks me to. I make no other contact unless in response to something she initiated.
Emotionally I haven't been able to detach. Yes I'm trying to prepare myself for what the possibilities may be. However, it's difficult to emotionally detach when all i have is thoughts and memories to go off of.
It's hard enough to go through something like this, but it's even harder when you're now even there to face it. I so much want this time away to be beneficial to her, but I'm afraid that it will be just beginning when i return home.
I don't know what my return is going to be like, nor does she. I hope for good communication and interaction when I return home, but I just don't know. I know I can do it, but I'm not so sure if she can do it. This isn't the same woman that said good bye to me almost six months ago.
Married 18 Me 39 W 37 D 15 D 5 Divorce Filed 8 April 2010 Beginning of Reconcile 8 Sept