I totally agree that the "what did you do when you were single" argument holds NO BEARING whatsoever on married life. I mean, do you really want to know the answer to that, LOL. At any rate, I don't think those behaviors are acceptable within a monogamous relationship!
Furthermore, it seems to underscore the main difference between HD people and LD people. Corri, you are missing the boat by focusing on the fact that it is a PHYSICAL thing that is missing. It's not! I can take care of the physical thing myself. What is missing is the emotional component and connection with another person.
And the others are right...it is HELL to marry a person that you dearly love, only to have them decide at some point that sex aint doin' it for them anymore. After all, that was one of the main reasons that I married--because he was so attractive to me that I wanted to make sure that he wasn't going anywhere! I LOVED the fact that I didn't have to sit around and be lonely, bored, whatever as I did in my single days. I loved the fact that I never had to wonder again (or so I thought) how many months would go by before I would have sex again, as I did when I was single.
So Corri, I have to chime in with the others and say that the PHYSICAL yearning for a sex partner from my single days has little to nothing to do with the MENTAL, EMOTIONAL and PHYSICAL yearning for my spouse.
