Thanks for the words of wisdom. No offense at all. I know I need to b more confident and self-assured. I love holding my wife and I guess when things got bad, I tried to "hold" on even more. But I love her so much, I will do what is necessary for however long to get her outta this fog she's in.
At what point do I ask her out for coffee or a date? Or do I never do that? Do I wait indefinitely for her to ask me??
If it were me, I wouldn't ask her. And I wouldn't be 'waiting' for her to ask me. I know it's hard to not keep your eye on getting your W back, but this is a lot more than getting your marriage back.
In the beginning we all come here to get our M back, we end up getting ourselves back. Getting the M back becomes a bonus and not the prize.
You got some great feedback above. Work on your issue about smothering her. That's where your work lies right now. Do it because it will make you a better person no matter what happens.
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