SR, you don't have to decide if you want to reconcile yet. You're here because you want to keep that option open, right? I know that since H moved out I've been micromanaging myself, afraid of pursuing or saying the wrong thing or having the wrong tone of voice or facial expression. My interactions have been fear-based. I'm realizing that I have to start being myself around H...or at least the good part of myself . Nothing pursuing, but being a bit warmer, more humourous, a bit chattier. Partly for me, so that I feel like a human being around H, not a DB robot. I'm still following my personal guidelines, but trying to be more relaxed.
As long as you're giving her space and not pursuing, be yourself...the good part of yourself
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
. Nothing pursuing, but being a bit warmer, more humourous, a bit chattier. Partly for me, so that I feel like a human being around H, not a DB robot. I'm still following my personal guidelines, but trying to be more relaxed.
