You should definitely spend some time (and maybe money) trying to figure out why you are not happy. Do whatever you have to do to be happy. I would start with exercise. This will help you in more ways than anything else in the world. On top of that it might not hurt to get a little counseling. The most important thing is that you be really honest with yourself and get to know yourself. If you can't do that then you are in for a world of trouble.
I know it is tricky keeping yourself from emotionally divorcing your spouse. What you have to do is just focus on yourself. You can't help your spouse. All you can do is be there for them as much as you can. Just don't lose yourself by giving or "giving in" too much.
I promise you that if you will exercise for an hour at least three times a week, AND, start focusing on how to make yourself happy in ways that have absolutely nothing to do with your husband, you will feel a whole lot better...and not that better that only lasts for a couple days and then vanishes...I am talking about feeling better for the rest of your life.
