The thing is ALJ, what he uses the money for that he borrows doens't matter...
Sure, he needs to pay a bill... Be honest here and tell me this :
Do you think he hasn't spent a SINGLE DIME on OW... hasn't bought her ANY GIFTS at ALL?
Every dime he puts into her, is a dime he COULD have put into his kids instead... its selfish.
Now, I am not a tyrant here. I think everyone should have a life, but there is SOME spending that's ok and there is some that is NOT.
If I put 200 bucks into buying a new guitar that's on sale instead of putting it into my hosuehold, that may be forgivable - assuming I dno't have three hundred guitars arlready - but putting money into buying gifts or dinners for another woman is paying money to DAMAGE your marriage outright.
Maybe your H is in the clear, mabye he is not putting any money into OW, but I suspect he has.
If that is the case, you need to cut him off... sounds like you like the idea anyways.
Half his unemployement goes to you?
Hmmmmm...
But YOu don't know how much he's making down there right? Is tehre any possibility that he's making MORE that you don't know about?
And yes line about taking three jobs to provide ofr his kids is bullcrap... its just a LINE
Why do I say this?
He's cheating on you, he's abandoned you, he's walked out and left YOU to deal with everything while he's off playing and offers NO commitment to coming back.
Yes, kids need more than money, but I think he KNOWS that... When he talks about taking three jobs I would call him on it
HUSBAND : I love my kids. I will take three jobs if I have to to support my kids. I would do anything for my kids.
ALJ : OK, so how about you come HOME to LIVE with them then?
HUSABND : No can do, I am enjoying the care-free bachelor life here.
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So, you see, if you PRESS the claim, he's just going to backpeddal on it. He just is trying to overcompensate in my opinion. He KNOWS he's doing damage and is a bad father... So he makes these wild claims about being a great provider to make HIMSELF feel less guilty.
Its just a line.
If you Do talk to him and you DO hear that line.. CALL him on it.. "You woudl do anything eh? Then come back HOME."
"Well Husband, I can't remember the last time your daugthers asked where's dad's support cheque... they want to know where YOU are... not where your MONEY is..."
But this guy needs to grow up a bit, so protect yourself, your kids, and your finances for now... I suspect he will come crawling back eventually and you will haev some choices to make.
