setting boundaries when not clear if A is over

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Intelligence update:
My overseas friend has got back to me and was unable to find out from two people - she did not approach the OW direct - if they had any info about the A & whether or not it was continuing.
She did however report that the OW is apparently "not doing well at all", according to her family. Don't know if that's because my WAH and her have broken it off or not.

The next day, one of the friends she asked, who is a common friend of myself, best friend of my WAH and cousin to the OW, rang me yesterday from overseas. He said he felt terrible about not protesting the A when it first came up, and asked what he could do to help me and the situation! Great!! A supporter!

I asked him to tell the OW to protect herself from my WAH, and to consider her part in the damage she is causing me, WAH, our unborn child, and our families. With regard to my WAH, I asked this friend to tell him to stop escaping into fantasy land with OW and accept his responsibilities and deal with his problems and fears.

He also told me he has no intelligence on the A, other than that OW is "being very discreet", hasn't spoken to her in a month, but since there has been do declaration of a split up, he still thinks they have plans to be together.

Otherwise, my locally-based friend rang back yesterday and said he couldn't do it.. He didn't want to 'lie' to my WAH and ask things sneekily. I said I understood.... what else was I to say?