The thing is MC, "flames" are hard to identify just from indirect observation...
From the beginning of this OIN's wife WAS falling for the guy and all OIN's friens at work said they were "just talking"
I don't konw how much infidelity script you have ever heard MC but "just talking" is at the top of the list.
MOST affairs start out by two people "just talking"
You dont' want to wait until someone finds them mounting each other in the conference room before you act.
If you find two married people talking to each other alot in private, you get IN there.. in my opinion that's a probelm waiting to happen... you can watch them all you want, but I say if there is chatter, you get in there...
NOW...
I DO agree MC that OM's wife should be called rarely.. OIN if OM will take your calls, talk to him... OMW should NOT mind about that.. you CAN just go visit them... buy a small gift and drop by their house, talk to BOTH of them... see where i am going?
My advice is to talk to those two as COUPLE, don't cut etiher of them otu of the loop... focus on OM though... he's the risk not OMW... and if you keep bypassing OM he's NOT gonig to support you.. if you talk to OM the OM will respect you mroe and be more likley to HELP you out.
I agree MC, that OMW should be included only if OM isnt' towing the line...
And ya, your wife will get pissed if you call OMW too much.. and right now you don't want her angry... if everyone is behaving themselves except your wife, then don't bother the other couple...
I didn't quite gather from your post exactly what OM is saying or doing... I worked all day so my brain didn't read it at 100%
Talk to OM first, if he isnt' cooperating then you go to his wife... TRY to talk to them as a couple if you can... Go visit thier place, bring a small gift, make it a social call... it wil give you some points with your wife if you do it that way rather than making direct private calls to OMW
