Huband is having an emotional affair

[ALJ]

Thanks everyone for the advice.

I currently have my own banking account and WH has no access to it because he has no ATM card for it but it is an account that is at the same bank as our joint account and he can view the balances and activity in both accounts. I also have a credit union account that I will start to deposit money into when I get a job and just keep the other account empty.

Currently, WH does not pay child support. I have not pressed the issue because he has been giving me half of his monthly income from his unemployment. We are not legally separated and we have not went through the courts for anything. So far, except for a couple of instances, he has not asked for any money from the joint account. He always asked me first to make sure that I could afford it before he used any money in the joint account. It was always to pay a bill of some sort or get gas.

We don't have any other source of income except for our unemployment checks so I don't have any extra money to give to him if he asked for it. He knows that I am barely making ends meet and him not being able to find decent work is wearing on him. He mentioned once that he will work 2 or 3 jobs to provide for his kids. As if financial support is all that they need and that alone will make everything okay. I don't think so. Our children need their father in their lives and not just a paycheck.

I would be so devasated if my H resorted to stealing money from our joint account. That would be so unlike him but when people are addicted to someone or something, you cannot put it past them.