Cat04 -- what happened with the dating? I don't know your sitch.
I think I know what you mean by physical vs. real intimacy though, when we tried reconciling it felt more the former then the latter, and I was the one to stop it that time. It didn't feel real. But now I keep questioning myself, if it was just the hurt or betrayal or lack of trust getting in the way of what was real. I don't know what is real or not anymore, at least when it comes to H.