OP, I certainly never thought I was perfect! I guess I was just happy being "human" and willing to work on what I could and accept the things that were me too. And the same goes for H. I liked him, faults and all. I don't like who he is right now though. I trusted him, I was really in the relationship, and he was not. Why on earth would we have the ability to be so deep into a relationship with someone who is not?