Sorry about my verbage, I wasnt trying to discourage you...I was involved in an EA...all I did was complain about my M...istead of approaching W and letting her know the issues, I found comfort and support in OW...
That fell apart..just before it did, W approached me and shared her truest feelings and disappointments reg the M...I could have cared less at the time- my E needs were being met elsewhere. The EA crashed and burned, I immediately wanted what I had found w/ OW in my M.
At that time W had an EA and she checked out just like I did...the chase has been on since then...my M is ruined unless something spectacular takes place.
My point is being checked out is not permanant, ESP if it's the man who's checked out...if you give him a sense of loss- I can assure you it may be the best way for results.
Doesn't work so much when the woman checks out...at least thats the way I understand it.
I am a good man, sure I was selfich and didn't communicate well, BUT when W checked out-I knew EXACTLY what I wanted...
Keep hope alive, I still do to a degree and my sitch may be beyond all hope
