OTOH, when she is with your STBX, you can look at it as a chance for your D to learn natural consequences regarding getting cold due to not being dressed properly.
That's what bothers me, she's a kid and can't be expected to make the right decisions for herself. It's our responsibility as parents to do what's best for her.
She's six though. You can start to put some of the responsibility in her hands. One way to start is you bringing extra clothing with you, then asking her "is your body warm, cold, or just right", then giving her clothing if she is cold. That's coaching her to tune into her own body and take care of herself. If she regularly wants more clothing once she's outside you can encourage her to put on the clothing before going outside. As parents, it's our job to support our children in developing self management and self regulation skills.
FWIW, your W sleeping with your D doesn't concern me . If it starts to be a problem, it can be changed.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
. If it starts to be a problem, it can be changed.
