So happy to see you here, H! Yes, still an a$$. I'm doing good I think. Kind of weird day today.
X's good friend ( ) asked me out for lunch Friday. He kind of cornered me in my cubicle, and I didn't have much of a choice. I was going to have my good friend at work, K, and her boyfriend go with us, they all work there, so would have been ok. But then my supervisor calls me in and says apparently X's friend has a long-term reputation as a player. I was so embarrassed but also glad she warned me really. I don't have any dating experience to speak of, so players are the last thing I need to be anywhere near!
I have the trial tomorrow, but then on Friday when I go back to work; I'm planning on telling him that I decided b/c he's X's friend I don't think it's a good idea we go to lunch or anything.
One of my good friends at work has been telling me for the last couple weeks she doesn't think I'm ready to date except for maybe a rebound. She thinks I get too bothered by X when he does what he does. I don't know about that; I mean compared to 2 years ago, I think I've come a long long way, and I've only been friends with her for 3 months, but she does see me every day so I don't know.
Still emailing eharmony guy every day, just emailing him when he emails me. I think based on everyone's advice I'll just keep doing that; he can make a move or not I guess.
Being bothered by X's actions toward you is normal. Obsessing on it isn't. You don't seem to get too hung up on it so I don't see a problem with just some casual dates, having fun with someone. A full-blown R probably isn't a good idea right now, but hanging out with someone of the male persuasion couldn't really hurt anything, right?
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
I've been emailing my eharmony guy for the last week or so every day. What's the next step with that? Meeting for coffee or something??my first experience with online dating you know!
Hi Karen,
I think it's customary for the next step to meet up, hop into bed, and hump like bunnies. I'm not really sure tho.
NO, I came from a SSM, remember? So somehow, I would probably skip right from the e-mails to the Smoking of the Afterglow Cigarettes, and be like "whahappened??? Where's all the hot monkey sex??"
- Puppy, who just mixed his "bunny" and his "monkey" metaphors
My advice - meet eharmony guy for coffee in some public place sooner rather than later. It's easy to develop a "relationship" online, but you might find there's NO chemistry when you meet. Better to get the meeting out of the way early.
I wonder about that anyway. He's very conservative-sounding, not flirty at all. I know I'm conservative, but I think he might be too conservative. Still chatting though. I don't know. One of my friends at work was suggesting we might take a road trip one weekend and meet him, but I'm not in a rush to do that or anything. Truth is I'm happy right now. Although at some point I know I have to get out there...
I blew off X's friend, in a nice way yesterday, and he took it well, and said he realized that after he asked me out, so that's a relief. I just dropped the kids off and OW was there with X again. X had to get all in my car making sure D10 hadn't forgotten anything he said--I had packed up all her stuff in her backpack though.
Well, I have lots of errands and cleaning to do this weekend, but then I plan to take the time to watch a chick flick this weekend. I was thinking maybe the Proposal, looks like it'd be funny...Hope everyone has a good weekend!
Puppy, it's great to hear from you again!!! I think a lot of us from Infidelity have graduated to here. I still can't believe what I mess I used to be, and you were a big part of me getting stronger/healthier.
Puppy, it's great to hear from you again!!! I think a lot of us from Infidelity have graduated to here. I still can't believe what I mess I used to be, and you were a big part of me getting stronger/healthier.
Ehh, we're ALL messes, Karen. Good thing God's not through with us yet, huh. Some of us are just further down certain paths than others, and it provides perspective.
OK, somewhat stressful day today. First of all, I mentioned to my friends at work this am that when X gave me the child support/alimony check this weekend, he deducted $122.50 for 50% of medical expenses. And remember, I paid about $4000 or so for the kids therapies, copays and medications last year. So my friends said that's illegal for him to modify the amount and you need to call your L. So I did, and also b/c I also wanted to stress the need for garnishment; I'm seriously not going to sign anything if needed if I don't have that done first, and his changing the amount or payment date every other month is crazy. So then the L said well email him and ask for details of what the medical costs were b/c he never directly has given me any info of course. So I did that, just a short and sweet email asking him for list of expenses. So of course, I got nasty email back from him which I ignored.
After work tonight, I left a little bit late b/c I was doing something, and then went to the store on the way home, to get groceries and the kids' Easter stuff. Really weird b/c I'm the least observant person and I never notice people at the store, unless they need help or something, but I'm in the produce section, and out of the corner of my eye I see something and look and it's X making like a big swish with his cart as he was walking towards the next aisle, I think he wanted me to notice him. I just kind of nervously smiled I'm pretty sure, and then just grabbed a bunch of produce dumped it in my cart and tried to rush to get out of there. A couple minutes later he comes back to me (he had been going in the opposite direction) and asks me really loud why did you email me that today you know what the medical expenses are or something like that. I just kind of shook my head, said nothing, and walked quickly off to the registers. I was worried he might follow me to the parking lot or something but he didn't. I was so shaky after that. He's really kind of crazy and it sinks in more as time goes by. So that was my day.
) asked me out for lunch Friday. He kind of cornered me in my cubicle, and I didn't have much of a choice. I was going to have my good friend at work, K, and her boyfriend go with us, they all work there, so would have been ok. But then my supervisor calls me in and says apparently X's friend has a long-term reputation as a player. I was so embarrassed but also glad she warned me really. I don't have any dating experience to speak of, so players are the last thing I need to be anywhere near!
