Msm there is not reason why you cannot talk to your H about this. The point is that you will not be always on at him, nagging him or turning every hug into something more when he doesn't want that.
Find a way to have a good talk about it that will not lead to either of you getting upset or an argument. Get him to tell you what he is prepared to do. Then leave it alone and see if he does actually do what he said he would.
Another thing that seems to help some people is seeing a counsellor have you considered this?
