"Wife you're right, it's not working out, we should go our separate ways, you should be with the other guy, in fact I hope you're happy with him, time for me to find someone else too, I hope it works out for you, no hard feelings, bye."
Okay. When do I drop this bomb? ASAP? Doesn't this just put the D in her court? If I am agreeing with her on the D, why maintain the separation? Help me understand the steps here?
--F.
You can do it anytime, probably after you pack her things and put them in boxes and leave them in the driveway or garage for her to pick up. Yes she can divorce you anytime but technically you could too, let her do the work though, she wanted this separation and affair, she can do it, you're not worried anymore, it doesn't matter, that's the mindset, as for the counselling, tell her that if she wants to continue doing it, that's fine but it's up to her, you won't force her to continue, life is short and too precious to waste and if she can't be bothered to attend this then it's no sweat to you either. Happy, Cheerful, life is great attitude throughout all of this, not punitive, mean, a$$holish, jerkish or prickish - it's like you've had an awakening too and this is actually a great thing in disguise.
