I was wondering about this. I mean, I feel much calmer now that I am more aware of my situaction not being a sure indication that my M is done for. But now that I have been much better wife, no pressure , very minimun nagging (really) and confronting life just a bit more relax, I find myself thinking, should I initiate sex now? or should I wait for him to approach me when he is ready? I am a bit scared now, because I don't want to send all my good efforts to hell by rushing him, but I am getting this nagging feeling that H is relieved I am not pressuring him anymore,and totally misundertanding my actions, thinking I am not being more respectful or considerate, so he won't fell threatened, BUT BECAUSE I just gave up and came to "my senses" about my "unreasonable" need for sex, so now we both agree that there was not reason to get all so worked up about it in the first place. I am being very honest here, because NOTHING is happening, and I mean NOTHING. I used to get a little "groping" before, ya' know , a very nice sort of way, but now, not even that! and I am not sure if I should say something, because every time I do, he tells me I am attacking him again! besides, I am not supposed to nag at him remember?
What am I supposed to do, how do I know my approach is even working? or if I am doing me in even more?
HELP!
I thought I would chime in on this thread. I would have to ask the same question as Vanot. How long have you been working at this? Maybe you're like me, you want instant results and feel discouraged when they don't happen. Look for the little things. My W slipping and calling me "honey" a couple times last week was a good small step. There have been other small signs as well. Are you looking low enough for those small good signs?
What I mean is are you looking for an elephant in the kitchen and using it as a gauge for success but missing the little ants milling around your feet. This anology is silly I know. Look for the small signs.
Go about your business for yourself. I'm sure you're a fine looking lady so don't doubt that. Try a new fashion statement. For yourself. He will notice it. My W hasn't really made a fashion statement other than wearing a tight girly girl shirt. But I noticed.
Just do it for you and he will notice. Once again, I ramble and I'm sorry.
