SecondChance, There is a 50/50% chance that he will wake up and realize what he's done and try to make amends. If is a very powerful word and that doesn't mean he will or will wake up.....in other words I'm not saying one way or the other. If is used quite a bit around here.
In his mind, he may very well think he's trying to reconcile and it's easier to say that than to actually do the necessary work to get from A to Z. Some of they say this and it's not to string you along, but it's what they "think" they are doing. Actions have to speak louder than words around here.
My xh wanted to buy me a larger, more expensive engagement ring before he flew the coop. Others have gone as far as purchasing wedding gowns and setting up wedding arrangements for renewal of their vows, trips are planned for the 25th wedding anniversaries and then POOF! It's over like a candle has been snuffed out. I think all of this is done to see if that "in love feeling" can be recaptured. Once they realize it's not something they actually feel for us, that's when they are convinced it's time to leave. They don't realize that genuine love goes deeper than that "in love" feeling.
It's okay to come here to ask questions and vent. But, just remember no one has all of the answers. We all can offer up advice and each situation is and continues to be different.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
