I see a lot of people who are stuck...
they aren't stuck because they are standing

they are stuck because they still go back to what their spouse is doing

they have not detached

all the GALing in the world really isn't GALing if you sit at home and pine away and wonder "what if" and bemoan your fate

GAL really means GETTING A LIFE
a life means living

sending yourself flowers and acting mysterious isn't getting a life

wondering why this happened to you over nad over again isn't getting a life

feeling the affects of their MLC or their attitude means you haven't really GAL
which means
all your "hard work" is smoke and mirrors

you haven't gotten a life
you just pretended you have

once you get one

their life becomes secondary to yours
because you are too busy living to notice