You said she doesn't think of you as her H. She is wanting to D you and move to where OM is and yet when having that three hour conversation where she thinks of you as her friend, you bring up the subject of ML.

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Brought up the subject of our ML at some point in the future and she said that she has been thinking about this but is not ready for it yet


Why would she want to ML to a friend?

That is completely illogical and inappropriate. She was being nice by saying she wasn't "ready" for that yet.

If I were this WAW, I would be tempted to tell you that it would take more than two months for your changes to stick. She has been M to you for 25 yrs. Why should she think you would change that quickly and not backslide if she gave you another chance?


It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!