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Well he's cooked dinner even being kind offering me drinks and desert. The he's just announced he's going to bed in an hour to read instead of our cuddle time, I just feel so down and can see no end to this all.


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He's licking his wounds - let him think about what you said. And next time he comes out of his shell, don't let it disappear, try talking to him again until you get him to listen.


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LR, there's nothing like financial worries to make EVERYTHING seem dismal ((())) . I know how that is, believe me. Your feelings are important. The more you honour them within yourself, the more that you'll be able to clearly communicate with your H. You deserve a partner in solving this problem. Big hugs to you.


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Well it took a while for him to crack lol! I couldnt sleep so at 3am was wide awake, when a small voice said "will a cuddle help" so I replied "maybe". It was a bit sticky going first thing but Ive just had a text saying "buritos, wine, choccie and movie for this eve" Ok he cant fix it my way but hes trying to make me feel better.. Oh I do wish it would work though but thats not his fault..


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OOh forgot to add incase you get here first FM thanks so much for last night it was very kind of you! Also to GW/CW and H4L for their messages and missed chat it means the world to me (())


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Glad to hear things are moving in a more positive direction. Sounds like it could be a good evening... smile Hope there is further progress made ((hugs))

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LR, I'm so glad that your H sees your sadness and worry and wants to comfort you. I know you need him to take action to deal with the situation, but it's wonderful that you can share some closeness together. Make the most of the good things that come your way smile


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I know it's horrible. give yourself big hugs and enjoy the choccies!


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the offers to empathize in these small ways sound like what he knows to do now.

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Well it's been one heck of a week, up, down and mostly felt like I was hanging on the very last rung of the ladder of life by Friday night.

Right that's the miserable bit.



Saturday not feeling so well so let ODP talk me out of riding and spent the day with H. A simple day, some special cuddles wink wink, and croissants for breakie he had picked up the day before. Popped out shopping to get stuff for dinner then came back to watch the first of the twilight films to catch up the plot, so we could watch number two that eve. Watched a tv program we are following and then started to watch no two. H came over for a cuddle about half hour into it. Hard to watch no two as the boyfriend vampire because the girlfriend can't be safe, in the first one I said to h do you remember being so in love like that and he smiled and said maybe we are again! Anyway few teary moments through the film don't know if H twigged why.

Then today two biggys he went off to find a new walking group first thing he has found to do at home since coming back..

Me I finally kicked my ODP into touch held head high and went ride madam, right I can't control what's going on in my life I'm doing my damnedest to keep going...

Now on rung four please god let some thing happen this week that gives me a big break!

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