The first sentence about me not being as rigid was in fact a bit defensive but she always says things in such a way as if I had something to do with things not working out. Her comment to me implied that even if we wanted to take a vacation I wouldn't go. Yet I'd mentioned to her in the past that we could. It was her that dropped the ball and didn't want to move forward. Like she does with everything else.
actually, IMHO, that's not what she meant. I think she was saying, you wouldn't want to go where she is going. also, not to be hard on you, but I think she was also thinking she wasn't wanting to go on a vaca with you and a lot of people will use that phrase as a scapegoat. and that is only because of where she is right now, mentally, with herself and the M. so do NOT take that personally. she is not in the M right now and you can't expect her to feel what she should be feeling as a W.
also, we cannot assume what people are implying. you really don't know exactly what she is thinking, so don't put words in her mouth, no matter how well you know her. always speak positively and confidently, not defensively
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
