I don't know why men think a R talk always does the stitch good. Maybe b/c they just feel better. Anyway, you said what you wanted to tell her so my suggestion is to not give in to tempatation and tell her again.....thinking it will finally soak in. I'm not saying you did a bad thing, but I don't know that it did as much as you hoped. Men cannot fix their R with talks. It takes time and it takes "doing" more than the talks. And, when it's the WAW doing wrong.....it could come off as sounding preachy, so be careful in the future, okay?

So now that you have told her all of that, why don't the two of you agree to a visitation schedule and also agree that if a visit is missed, then have to wait until the next time so it won't keep things messed up. Otherwise, she is going to keep you and the girls' lives turned upside down. She is showing how unstable she truly is.

BTW, D-15 is smart and your W will not be able to lie her way out of much that D-15 doesn't catch on.

Your W's unstableness and lack of convidence.....plus being guilty of adultry.....is scaring her where D-15 is concerned. I bet somebody had told her she could lose D due to how she's living and that is why she's tried to get the biological father to get her. Just remain calm when W says things about bio dad and D and don't push your wait around if you get upset, b/c you could lose D-15 and it would terrible for both of you.

Keep posting, GAL, staying strong and loving your kids. Keep a good heart for the Lord.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!