yes, i believe that too. i believe that underneath, he is angry at them and himself for not being able to stand up for himself. but why take it out on me? what did i do wrong? i only made life better. oh wait. i know what i did. he owed his parents money and i helped him repay that debt. that debt symbolized a grasp his parents had on him. by getting rid of the debt, i got rid of the grasp on him. so that made me the evil woman who was coming between them. she must be destroyed with a d-bomb!
i think you are so right though. it is abuse. h will never realize how much better he was with me. by dropping the d-bomb, he obviously isn't going to put m first. i think the d-bomb was dropped at a time when his judgement was clouded with his parents nagging voices of what a witch i was. my ic says the m is so salvagable. but h has a lot of work to do. he has to establish boundaries between the m and his parents. this is where HE failed.
what would my future look like? i want to be happy again. i want a place to call my home. i want to buy the things i want to buy decorate my home the way i like i want to share my life with someone who loves me and appreciates me i want someone who wants to be with me, as much as i want to be with him. i want to travel to places and share experiences with him.