omg. you know exactly how i feel. mil is the ow because the ea is not sexual. it's emotional. i should be filling this role but mil continues to take that spot and will not vacate it.
sandi2 - i don't want to give up on my m. the only reason for d is infidelity and physical abuse. infidelity is the ultimate betrayal for me. non-negotiable.
in a way i do feel betrayed because when we got married, i felt i should have been #1 in his life. but the only need i fulfilled was sex. it makes me feel like a prostitute and not a wife. my desire to be intimate began to shrink because i was able to see that i was just someone to have sex with. this is not what i married for.
now that i've upset the Queen Bee, it's like the biggest deal breaker on earth. i didn't even do anything wrong. she exaggerated the situation and they convinced him that he made a mistake in marrying me. so he is trying to please them by dropping the d-bomb on me and taking the lion share of our net worth.
before me, h had an old apartment and a whack of debt. after marrying me, we upgraded to a large home and was virtually debt free. in fact, things were rosy and people were envious of our success.
this is what i brought to the table. and h wants to drop the d-bomb on me?! i helped build our net worth to what it is today. i took him from being in debt for the last 12 yrs, to debt-free in a matter of 3 yrs. all due to my money management skills.
my mil won't be dying any time soon unfortunately. and until then, he will not realize that the only person who has ever done anything good in his life, was me.
mommy is useless, daddy is useless. even h often gets tired of them so it should only be a matter of time before he realizes what he has lost.
