I'm curious about what W was like while you were dating
I met her before she started her career. She was…. fun. Interested in things outside her comfort zone. When I met her I used to go canoe camping a lot in the summer. She was really up for that, since it was something she had never done. But even then she felt guilty because I had to pack everything, prepare the meals, and carry the heavy loads.
Once she started working, I could tell she started changing. It soon became more about hotels and restaurants, and a lot less about bugs and rain. She would never go on a camping trip now. Yet she has a friend who is in fish and wildlife management and a real outdoors guy. He and I have a lot in common. We might be talking, and to be part of the conversation, she will brag to him about how much she likes wilderness camping and the trips we have been on (as if we are still going on them) and I’m looking at her like, “who the **** are you?!?”
Another short story. Where I live there is an outdoor beer festival held annually. I had some friends going one year and asked if she wanted to go. No, of course, because it was really out of her comfort zone. The next year that same fish guy friend was going with some of his friends. She’d love to go. Then he moved away. The next year,”Hey want to go?” What do you think the answer was?
So, I see some of that confidence. If there is an event, and I can tell it may not be something she actually will like doing, for her friends she will make the effort. For me…. meh.
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Or you're REALLY a fixer who goes after wounded women in order to be their savior.
Nice analysis, Pearl. I don’t know. I think a lot of me searches to have that need for adoration filled. Maybe wounded women fulfill that need more readily (at least at first). I think I might be setting the bar too high.
