Thanks for your understanding CG. It does help. I think I would like to try a combination of things: addressing the underlying unsafe things AND practical tools for starting to work (once I start I get involved in it and it's not too bad).
It sounds like you've made incredible progress and gained a lot of self-awareness in your journey.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.