Eye of the storm?

[cyclone]

Don't know how to link my old threads but as a brief background to my sitch:

Bomb back in Aug 09. ILYBANILWY, W stops wearing ring, wants me to move out (I don't), she starts renting a room and spends nights away for a couple months. Can't handle being away from kids and moves back to spend ~50% of nights in the house. Talks D periodically this entire time but still hasn't filed.

A few weeks ago had a meltdown over wanting a new car but finds that she can't get a loan without me co-signing. I offer to pay to have car fixed. She gets really mad and now says that she really wants to D and accuses me of wanting to be adversarial. It was a real storm but I hung in there and stayed calm throughout. She still didn't file (that I know of).

HB thought she might be coming out of withdrawal, I thought she was(is) still in replay. Was HB right?...

Latest developments...

She had another breakdown last weekend. After she left Fri night, S7 discovered she was gone and went hysterical. He called her cell about 15 times in a row. She finally called back about an hour later. After talking to him for a bit she asked me if she could do something with the kids on Sat. We arranged for me to meet her with the kids so she could spend the afternoon with them.

She called early the next morning. It sounded like she was going to back out at first. She was very emotional. Said she hadn't slept all night and couldn't shut her mind off about S7's call and behavior. I validated the best I could, but told her that I was sorry that things weren't going as she had planned. She responded that there was no plan.

I met her to drop the kids off. We met for lunch and ice cream after. I kept trying to leave but she was really good at sucking me into a bit more time together. when it was time for me to go, S10 didn't want to go with her and she was quick to say he could stay with me. We all met back at the house that evening (then she left again).

Fast forward a few days...

W started wearing her ring again. She hasn't made an obvious attempt to make me notice. I haven't told her I noticed because I don't want her to feel any pressure and run back in the tunnel. I'm trying real hard to keep expectations low to no. She has kept the ring on for the past couple of days.

She also asked what I thought about seeing a MC together, and is acting a whole lot like the old W. She wants us to work on our communication.

She even reached out to call my Dad to say she has been praying for my Mom and him since she found out that my Mom spent the night in the ER (she's ok). It took real courage to make that call.

This is new territory for me. I've been spending the past 7 months doing mirror work and detaching. I need to keep doing what works but don't want to throw away an opportunity.

Is this what touch and go's are like? It really feels like she is trying to come back, but I also know that she is still talking to OM. Is this just the eye of the storm that we've found ourselves in?