Hey, FWIW, women, in particular, are pretty body conscious. I can tell you from experience. I can't remember what I've shared, but I'll tell you again, if so!
I played D1 tennis and was on the dance team at Northwestern. Always fit. Had the kids, weight was up and down. Never too far up, though... The most weight I gained, even during three pregnancies was 12lbs. (I hurled non-stop - TMI Iknow). So, when a few years back my weight started slowly adding up, and not coming off as easily as it had in the past... I started to feel like sh*t. AND, couple that w/my H ALWAYS being in shape, never showing age, etc... God, help! I need a noose!
So, btw, I'm only 3lbs away from my goal weight, and guess who is starting to feel good about myself again? And, guess who's not looking quite as hot anymore?
So, don't discount your FITNESS affect on her. It's not your fault, unless you're consciously making her feel like a damn blob.
I'd be more considered w/her lack of desire to participate.
MOVE ON... She may just MOVE towards you!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
