Tough stuff to hear. I've kinda been comforted by having her stuff is here. It makes me think she is considering returning. But then I think how lazy, procrastinating, and conflict avoidant she is and chalk it up to that. It is just to difficult for her to do, so she avoids it. I guess I need to help her with that.
I think it might be very therapeutic for me to start that process of removing her from the house.
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start working on making the place new again
Not a problem. I can even get to some areas I’ve been meaning to remodel, like the closets.
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You have to let them go.
Got it!
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No more relationship talk
I’ve already dropped the R talk. I think I need to cut the talk down even more. Any ideas on how the conversation should go? I expect to be talking to her probably today. Do I even bring up scheduling C sessions? If I’m not supposed to go the MC without the OM discussed first, how do I even broach that? Is that something where she has to be begging to come back before I can even have any leverage to bring that out?
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It's quite possible that she has felt not good enough for you for a very long time
It is *definately* how she has felt. I don't get why. She is very unhappy about her body and is projecting. If she doesn't like her body, how could anyone else?
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Contact her when you've packed all her things
It will be tough to do, but I think you are right. It is the right move.
Thanks Rob, for the action oriented things I should be doing *now*.
