I follow you. This morning I may have gone too far in a TM I sent her. Only after I sent it did I realize it was heavy pursuit. She did not respond to it. She has not even txt me since actually. Everyday (even during all this) she would routinely txt me when she was on her lunch break. It may have been a force of habit but she still did it. Today she did not. Now I know it is just a TM but it was validation for me and the fact she works with OM does not help the thought process.
Also my wife did not wear the ring to work today. Her wearing the ring is also validation for me. As I mentioned before she told me herself she would not wear it unless she fekt better abiut our situation. She wore it one day and someone at her work said something to get her upset and she said "I am done with my marriage" however she wore if the following day too. Then she did not wear it. That brings us up to tuesday where she wear it during our trip and wednesday on the way back. Today she did not put it on and as far as I was concerned things were better than they had been in weeks...now I am baffled.
Yes I am a police officer. My W was and is not impressed by the uniform. She is a different kind of woman. Everyday for the past 3 yrs she would lay out my uniform for me and help me off to work every evening (up till the sitch happened). Now I do this on my own. Most of the time when I am walking out the door for work she is already in bed. Other times when she is not I try to look "proper" as I leave and give a good impression but she does not go for it.
Let me be honest here. I work from 8p-6a my W works 4a-1230p so there is an overlap. My W parks in a lot and then takes a shuttle bus to her work place. I know this is pursuit but...I have been picking her up at the lot with my patrol vehicle on nights we both work and dropping her off at the work place. I do this because during that short 5 min ride we have great conversations, so it has become a comfort zone for us. The last two nights I worked I did drive her and those are the two nights she work the ring. Tuesday I was not working and she left home without the ring. Today I am not working and she left without the ring.
Besides the fact she had in her head I would be picking her up those two days so she wore the ring , I also think about what behaviors did I project that day that may have prompted her to do so...all I can think of was I wore cologne to work those days as well (had not in over a year up till then) and she watched me walk out the door and more than likely smelled me.
Knowing my wife and the way she was not how she is now...I. Think she would had wanted me to say something about her wearing the ring but I did not. She use to want that attention from me b4 this all happened. I played it cool and said nothing about the ring. I am not sure if she is now thinking "before he made a big deal of me wearing the ring now it does not maybe he does not want it anymore" and left it off then again these are my thoughts not hers. I don't know what makes her put it on and take it off and if it even means anything when she does put it on.
