Naej, Thanks for holding a mirror up to me, and telling me what you see. I don't think it's an accident that dancing is my hobby. It's a means for me to grow in the ways I need to grow--being more expressive, connecting with people, being more comfortable in my body and integrating feelings into my life.
I am a feeling, sensitive person, but the problem is I've been too private about it. One can't be that private with one's spouse.
My W is proud of me for joining the Hustle Formation group. I can't believe I'm in front of a mirror doing John Travolta type moves. I would not have chosen the Hustle, but now that I'm there, am thinking it's a good choice.
I've watched Saturday Night Fever with John Travolta, and watched him dance. Although I don't want to be an adolescent with an attitude, I do need to work on conveying confidence and presence on the dance floor.
Our dance teacher told us that we need to have an internal secret that we're trying to convey to our partner or the audience. My W's secret is "I'm hot and I know it." I'm not sure what mine is yet.
It's painful to hear you call my M one of convenience or that I have no room in my life for my W. I'm not sure what to do with those comments.
I agree that I need to work on being more expressive and honest in the R, more willing to move into conflict, and being assertive when I think I'm being mistreated.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
