(((((mishka))))) Don't feel bad about how you are feeling. The unfortunate thing is that no one else in your family is willing to step up even a little bit to give you support, let alone a break. There's no earthly reason why you should be the only person that is doing anything for your mom. You'd be pretty justified in busting some chops!
Seriously though, if nothing else asking them for help might make them aware of how much you are dealing with and maybe make them feel guilty! LOL
You choose to take care of your mom. There's nothing wrong with that. It's not an easy choice, but you choose it anyways because you are a strong, determined, caring person.
Your life will not be like this forever.
Hang in there.
(((Mishka)))
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
I got home for lunch at the same time that the medical equipment company showed up with a walker and bedside commode for mom. We got everything adjusted and they left and mom was able to get up from the bed holding the walker and maneuver her way through to the living room without falling!! YEAH!!! Small victories! I don't know if she can get up from there to get to the bathroom but she's a pro at waiting for me. We'll see.
Oh trust me, my family knows just how stressed I am but they are all busy with their lives and can't see giving up any of their time to spend with her. There is no help there. Heck, they couldn't be bothered to spend an hour talking to her at the hospital, let alone come sit with her at the house.
There is some respite care I may be able to arrange, but it's for daycare only, no overnight, so it really isn't going to do much for allowing me to get out of town for a few days.
I know it won't be like this forever, but the reasons for it ending are NOT good so I just don't want to think about it. Right now is my concern and Marc's quality of life concerns me greatly. He has voiced his displeasure at not being able to just go away for a couple of days. He's not happy and I don't blame him.
In the meantime, I'll just keep working my frustrations out on the Wii. Today it's 74 degrees and sunny though and walking outside would be very nice. We'll see how this afternoon goes with work. Tomorrow it's going to drop back to 60. BOO HISS! Of course, we'll be complaining louder in August when it's 89 degrees with 90% humidity. They don't call it HOTLANTA for nothing!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
You and Marc are both unhappy about it. But, as you pointed out, the reason it will end is not good. This should be a good lesson for him in what it means to be family, the kind of things that life just throws at you sometimes and screws up your fun.
Lovely weather!
It's already broken 80 here one day. Before I know it, it'll break 100! Fun times.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
We are now paying for our one day of beautiful weather with 3 days of gloomy rain and colder temps. BLECH! Bring on the sunshine!!!! How do people live in the Pacific Northwest? ICK! Too many clouds makes for a cloudy spirit as far as I'm concerned.
Yesterday Gabe texted me to tell me that he was going to pick up Marc and take him to get his hair cut when he got home from school. Fine by me! He then asked if we wanted some pizza for dinner since he had some from work. Sure, why not? One night I won't have to cook for everyone! YEAH! Imagine my surprise though when I got home to find Gabe still at my house last night. He was fixing Marc's bike that had a flat tire and the chain had come off. That's fine, it just surprised me to find him there.
I managed to play polite when I got out of the car and that turned into an hour and a half of talking about Marc, a couple of mutual friends that I haven't spoken to since the S (one is the father of our Godson and Gabe caught me up on some things that our Godson has been up to the last couple of months), and some stuff about his family. I listened, interjected comments where appropriate, etc.. It was fine, it didn't upset me to talk with him, I didn't think much about it until later. He has never been this talkative, he answers questions when asked but doesn't have detailed conversations. Yesterday he couldn't shut up! He must be starved for conversation or something. When he was leaving with Marc for karate he said, "Thanks for the talk. It was nice." Strange man! One great thing to come out of it.....he handed me $20! YEAH! I don't know where he got it but I don't care. Cash in hand is nice. I can get Marc his own darned supply of yogurt so he stops eating all of mine!!!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Good that you guys could have a decent conversation that didn't leave you feeling yucky afterward. And glad for Marc that Gabe is spending time with him. Also, if he took him for a haircut you didn't have to pay for that, right? Take it if you can get it!
I'm with oldtimer here. It's time to be direct. The worst that can happen is nothing. It's not like they are helping now. Sometimes people are completely blind until it's spelled out in black and white.
BOO HISS! Of course, we'll be complaining louder in August when it's 89 degrees with 90% humidity. 
They don't call it HOTLANTA for nothing!