The tunnel of darkness

[kjensen]

D-You're right. Detachment is key or it is so easy to get sucked in! I know I am definitely more detached than a year ago, but I know I still have a ways to go. Distance, physical distance, has helped. Not seeing H daily or knowing what he is up to has helped. Continually reminding myself that there is no going back, only forward, that this is a journey he MUST take on his own..this all helps.

Focusing on ourselves and our children helps.

OP-As far as the prom stuff.. I have to say a 9th grader(D14) going to the prom with a senior, worries me a little. D14 says she is just good friends with this boy, and that he is very childlike/innocent..but the age/experience difference and the prom environment itself..worry me some. I'm going to try and gather info about what is planned, get H's input, before I say 'YES' or 'NO'-which was my first knee-jerk reaction. D14 is a very sensible girl(most of the time!), and wise beyond her years on many things..but I know sometimes she doesn't tell me the whole truth...so we shall see.