Need a Plan for My Marriage

[Steve McQueen]

time out. you slept on the old couch?

[LSG]

I fell asleep watching TV. Not intentional. I was in our bed last night. I will not leave the bed unless I want to. She will never kick me out. I told her I will never leave the bed in the past, and I meant it. Just was extremely tired, and I did not bother to get up. No biggie.

[LSG]

Well life is back to the same-o-same-o. Wife is non-responsive, and there is very little conversation. She home late again. I guess what trouble they have had is now back to normal. I figured nothing had changed. She was not all into the kids tonight either. Oh well, I knew it was to good to be true. It is just another day. Sometimes I wonder if I doing things right.

I don't talk to her very much.

Not nice or mean.

No I love yous.


I do not know how long this will play out if this continues.

I do not like living like this more everyday. I still do not want divorce, but I hope there is some indication of where our relationship is headed. I know it is looking more and more like the big D. That is not what I want ever.

I may not have a choice, and I have to do my best for myself and my kids. I understand that more. It still hurts like hell. I was hoping it would continue to be a little better.

Anyways let me know if I am on the right path.

Thanks

[Steve McQueen]

Oh well, I knew it was to good to be true. It is just another day. Sometimes I wonder if I doing things right.

stop doing this to yourself!

Anyways let me know if I am on the right path.

landscaping cowboy! thats the ticket. we'll call you 'Lightfoot' instead of love sick guy. thunderbolt. hahaha

girls love tan guys yelling giddyup as they smack them on the cheeks.
they dread guys who obsess over them to the point that they are crying and begging and cant get the hint.

get the hint?

[LSG]

This morning wife said she was trying to reduce our cell phone bill by 15% through her work. This is the same bill that I cancelled our text messaging and blocked the OM's numbers. She asked for the PWs and I told I can't do that. I told her I did it to protect me and the kids. I told her that I would not be in an open marriage. She said, we can separate the bills, and I told her I will not do that, and she said, "oh you do not have any money." I just ignored what she had to say. I did say I do my fair share. I feel I did pretty good this morning. I meant this not as a reply to anyone just a discussion of the morning events.

She is not happy with what I did, and I don't care. She will get over it. She just wanted to find out what I did.

No biggie.

[LSG]

I do not cry or beg at all. I do not even talk to her unless necessary. I have detached real good at this point. Im doing much better about the situation.

[Steve McQueen]

its a big biggie!

What is the next thing you can do to regain respect?

[LSG]

I will let you know real soon. If she is checking here, I do not want to say until I have done it.

[sandi2]

It seems that you are so strong in your opinion about my situation. I have been kind of feeling that you had an issue with me.

Are you kidding? You have brought the softie out in McQueen!

[LSG]

I hope someone is here tonight to help!

Wife came home at 9:43 pm tonight. I asked where she was, and she said, "her boss (Mr. Tano) bought pizza. I told she could have at least called to let me know. I told her I will call her boss next time, and I would not tolerate an open R with the OM. I told her I want to see her pay statement with overtime. She mentioned that she wanted her own cell phone, or the other phones in her name, and I told her "no." I would not do that so she could talk to the OM. She said she can save money that way, up to 15%. She said then she will get a divorce, and that she would get 100% custody of the kids, and that I would not be paid alimony or given child support. I told her "nope" that is not going to happen. She said, "my attorney said it would." I told her she needs another attorney. I told her that I did not want a D and never have, but she has to do what she has to do. I told her we could not have a chance in our marriage with the OM there. She said "I have not been in love with you for years". I said, "our marriage can be saved still." She brought up the job and that I would not get the kids without out one. I told her we will leave that to the judge. She said, "that she had been talking to attorney's and there is no chance I will get the kids. She said, "I have the money for an attorney and you don't because you have no job." I told her that kids will be devastated by this. She said, "she could not live like this anymore. I told she made the choice to put the OM ahead of the kids and me. She did not seem that concerned. I could tell she was a little worried, and she would talk to her attorney again tomorrow. I told her go ahead.

I am a little concerned with the money. I admit I was a little nervous, but I stood my ground. It did no feel good at all. It has been a tough night, but I am doing okay I guess.

I am waiting for your responses everyone. I need a little encouragement if anyone sees my post please! Any advice needed on inexpensive attornies. Please help!!!