Pretty good day yesterday. Very limited contact with H, and it was him calling/texting me. It was only about the kids. But it was nice not caring for once wether he contacted me or not.
I'm going to visit with my kids tongiht, so I will see him for a few minutes. I plan on telling him about my suggestion to share the house on a weekly basis. I'll let you know what he says.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
Hmmm... I don't know if you want to put it as a "suggestion".. it makes it sound like you are just putting the decision in HIS lap... not sure how to handle this, but I would put it as a "need" or something... I really don't like the subservient tone of "suggestion"... makes you sound like you are beneath him or something... just sounds in some way humbling and giving him full control over the resolution, I dunno...
mb, the concept is called birdnesting, leaving the kids in the "nest". It provides a more stable environment for the kids. A good thing if you can do it.
He may not go for it if he realizes how much it will take him away from OW.
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
I will try to get some help from family to approach him on this. However, I think I'm ok doing it alone if I have too. I'm still working on myself, but I'm a lot stronger than I was a few weeks ago. If he doesn't agree to it, then it's his loss and does mean he is being very selfish. If that is the case, then I will work on getting my own place to start rebuilding my life for me and my kids.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
