You know, if you wanted pain, shooting yourself in the foot would probably be faster and easier than checking his internet searches. Are you currently questioning your M? So is he. I'm not trying to defend him here, but he is struggling to make a decision that is difficult for him and you are trying to force him to make it right that second. Do you make all of your decisions in ten minutes or less? Congrats if you do, because I'm always the one in the grocery store comparing each and every product I pick up to the store brand. About three hours later, I have a cart full of groceries and I'm still unsure I've made the right decision.
The point is, you're going to have to stay strong and give him a little space to ride out this indecision. Either way, you're dependent on him to either commit himself 100% to this marriage or assist in making arrangements to send you home.
However, I can not cheer any louder for you in staying strong concerning the doctor issues and the way you handled them. You are amazing. You have definitely turned the tables on him and proven that you do not need him to live a happy and successful life.
My last concern, and I'm not even sure how to phrase it according to DB standards, but I would probably make a point to H that if he's considering keeping the OW in his life, he's not committing to the M anywhere near 100%. Maybe 90, maybe 80, but definitely not 100.
Me: 26 Ex: 27 Son: 5
Divorced: 3/2010 Each day is another opportunity to do it right.
