Struggling with Hope

[ericmsant2]

All -

Okay I have had a few days to think about a few things...here are my plans...(anyone outside of these boards will think I am crazy)

I am going to contact my L today (already have and I'm waiting for a return call). I will ask the L the following:

1) If we do not file now will this impact my ability to have the kids 50% of the time in the future.

2) If I do not file now could she file later for cruelty or something along those lines.

3) If I do not file now what does this do to my alimony payment. For example If proof of the affair (remember I live in a no fault state) does not materially impact this then I need to know. In addition, I would like to know what the approx "worst case scenario" payment would be.

4) If I do not file now do I run the risk of not remaining in my home.

Assuming that not filing does not "hurt" me per se then I am probably going to not file. I am standing for something bigger than me and that is my kids.

Yesterday her and I told the boys...A very wierd conversation. She almost seemed happy. I will post with a little more info later on today.